Is love egoistic?
Yes I believe it is because most people feel they gain possession, control or have the right to exclusivity towards something or someone they love. Hey MY love, I want you to love ME, my love belongs to you, how can you love two people at the same time. If you would love me then you wouldn’t do this or that. Why do you do this don’t you love me etc. We have all heard or used these lines at some point in our life and they are all self centred, the indicate that you expect someone to do something or not do something out of an feeling and emotion that you will have when they do it. if you ask someone what is love they may answer well gods love is true love.
So let’s take this answer. So if we agree that gods, alas, love is the purest love and true love. Then we also know that his love is everything else but self centred, cause we know we are forgiven for our mistakes. Well so is the believe is several religions. So if we define his love as true love and we are in pursued of perfection or growth, then shouldn’t our goal be, to achieve the same kind of love for others or and for the ones we claim to love or hold true love for? But this is easier said then done for the majority of people.
Because by saying that we have to be able to take our state of mine out of the me and turn it into them he or she.So do I believe most people love egoistic and love contrary to what it should be I believe so. Do most people love egoistically, yes! Is it love yes! Is it true love no.
Wednesday 20 August 2008
Wednesday 13 August 2008
Does love stay forever and never change?
Love like everything else on this planet has a beginning and an end, or should I rather say a changing point, because it doesn’t necessarily end but change. The change is its growth; in order to grow there ought to be change. Funny enough we believe it lasts for ever the way it is, or the way we have encountered it at first. We expect it not to ever change and stay how it was when we first encountered it forever.
Do we neglect our kids just because they don’t look as cute or are as innocent as they use to be as little babies when they grow up? No we don’t or shouldn’t.
So why do we do it or have the tendency of doing it when it comes to love?
When love is suppose to be loved and treated like a child and loved for what it is and what it will grow into.
Do we neglect our kids just because they don’t look as cute or are as innocent as they use to be as little babies when they grow up? No we don’t or shouldn’t.
So why do we do it or have the tendency of doing it when it comes to love?
When love is suppose to be loved and treated like a child and loved for what it is and what it will grow into.
Tuesday 12 August 2008
Do we truly love unconditioned?
I always hear people say true love is unconditional, but funny enough when people love, it is everything else but unconditional. There are boundaries regulations, controls, limitations, sacrifices, do and do nots in their unconditional love. So just by saying that, how can one say they have found their true love but stipulate, limit, mutilate and sacrifice it?
Why do people think by boxing in and controlling love and holding on to it like their live depends on it, that love will last forever the way they encountered it or at all?
I haven’t really found an answer or explanation for that, neither somewhat of an intelligent conclusion. I guess this is one of the things that just are the way they are.
Maybe it is pure wish being. Or maybe its somewhat like crack it blows our mind and we wish the ride would last forever.
Why do people think by boxing in and controlling love and holding on to it like their live depends on it, that love will last forever the way they encountered it or at all?
I haven’t really found an answer or explanation for that, neither somewhat of an intelligent conclusion. I guess this is one of the things that just are the way they are.
Maybe it is pure wish being. Or maybe its somewhat like crack it blows our mind and we wish the ride would last forever.
What's the difference between love and true love
So what is the difference between a true love that loves you for you. Or love, that loves you for what you don’t do?
We all or most of us know someone that we love as a person and we know they would give a arm and a leg for us. You can call them at anytime of the night and they will listen to you and be there for you, you can break down somewhere far and they will come and get you no matter what time of the day or night, they will go out of their way just to help you.
And that same person most likely does things that you totally don’t agree with. You know that friend that cheats on their spouse and you know, that friend that is an escort on the side to make an extra buck, that friend that lies every now and then and you know about it, that person that is to lazy to do anything for themselves, that person that stays out at all times of the night, yes that person that done crooked someone but you still defend them and love them. You know why? It is because you love them for who they are and not for what they do. You hold true love for them.
You know within their heart they are good loving and caring, it’s just some of the things they do you don’t agree with.
But do you love them less because of that or do you look at them differently?
Or do you say well that’s just him but he is the most loving person you will meet.
Do you see them for who they are or for what they do.
Most likely you see them for who they are and not for what they do.
But now would you say the same thing if that person would be the person that is with you? Most likely not. Now you can say well that’s why he is not my man or my woman.
Yes that is why he or she might be or stay just a best friend, but are you sure that the person you with doesn’t have one of them attributes. Don’t we all have one of those attributes, and if you find out they do, are you able to stay just as objective with them as you can be with your best friend. Specially if you claim that the person you hold true love for is also your best friend or believe they should be.
We all or most of us know someone that we love as a person and we know they would give a arm and a leg for us. You can call them at anytime of the night and they will listen to you and be there for you, you can break down somewhere far and they will come and get you no matter what time of the day or night, they will go out of their way just to help you.
And that same person most likely does things that you totally don’t agree with. You know that friend that cheats on their spouse and you know, that friend that is an escort on the side to make an extra buck, that friend that lies every now and then and you know about it, that person that is to lazy to do anything for themselves, that person that stays out at all times of the night, yes that person that done crooked someone but you still defend them and love them. You know why? It is because you love them for who they are and not for what they do. You hold true love for them.
You know within their heart they are good loving and caring, it’s just some of the things they do you don’t agree with.
But do you love them less because of that or do you look at them differently?
Or do you say well that’s just him but he is the most loving person you will meet.
Do you see them for who they are or for what they do.
Most likely you see them for who they are and not for what they do.
But now would you say the same thing if that person would be the person that is with you? Most likely not. Now you can say well that’s why he is not my man or my woman.
Yes that is why he or she might be or stay just a best friend, but are you sure that the person you with doesn’t have one of them attributes. Don’t we all have one of those attributes, and if you find out they do, are you able to stay just as objective with them as you can be with your best friend. Specially if you claim that the person you hold true love for is also your best friend or believe they should be.
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